ASTHMA!

Good morning guys hope you are all having a brill start to Monday. Those who watch my vlogs and read my blogs know that my son had some breathing difficulties a few weeks ago and I had to take him to hospital. So following the hospital visit I had to take him to the doctors to do a follow up and they gave him a pick flow ( to check how strong his breathing is) and pump if his breathing plays up again and we were told that he should use this for the next two weeks and to write down the results of the before and after of using the pick flow and pump.

We did this for two weeks and took the results back to the doctors and today I got a call form the doctors saying he has Asthma!! I was like what? how? out of the blue?. Its something I did not think would come out of the results as his been fine since the hospital visit and he had a football match this Saturday gone and he was fine.

So now I have to tell him and explain to him what that means and to make sure he don’t panic about it because when he had the first breathing issue I think he began to panic ( which is understandable) that he could not breath but h was fine. I have read up on Asthma and apparently some kids grow out of it and I hope he does too.

Moral of the story, parenthood can be scary! and difficult but our parents done it in harder timeS so with a strong support system, we can do it too.

Love Me X

SHOULD I WORK OR BE A STAY AT HOME MUM??

So since before I finished university I have been trying to work out how I can work as well as be there for children. The career I want to do is to do with planning and running events and since this kind of job includes long hours and weekends too, I have been finding it difficult to see how I can make it work. So with this in mind I have been trying to find a job which I can do around my children.

One of the jobs I have been looking at is working in a school as the holidays would be the same as well as finishing times. The issue with this is that such jobs are not many and they ask that you have experience working in an administration background or that you have worked in a school before which I haven’t.

So my dilemma is should I follow my dream job or should I just get a job which works around my children? this is one of the major issues we as parents or mothers face when it comes to working, especially in holidays when kids are off for weeks and  childcare costs are ridiculously expensive!.

So my job search and dilemma continues but am sure it will work out.

Moral of the story, we as parents cant always do what we want or follow our dreams. Once we have children we have to focus on them.

What are your views guys? and if your a working parent/parents how do you do it?

Love Me X

 

I GRADUATED!!!!!!!

Hey loves hope you are all well. So last week Tuesday 11th I graduated from university with Honours!!!! like what???!!!, I never thought I would get there or that I could do it. I had to redo 3 assignments!! in about a month!. So when I found out I had to redo 3 assignments which included my dissertation, I honestly could not take it anymore, my energy levels were so low as well as my motivation levels. I cried then I got angry not at me but at the tutors because they checked the assignment prier to hand in date and they gave them the go ahead not to fail I was just gobsmacked. I gave and said I don’t care anymore I do not want to graduate…….. the usual reactions when you have given all you can and its still not good enough.

But after talking to my family and friends and sleeping on it I decided to push myself and get my degree because if I didn’t I would have wasted 3 years for what? and I had to show my babies that no matter the obstacles you can still do it. So I put my head down and got them done and handed in before my family holiday to Uganda. When we came back it was back to reality to find out the results of my resits. I passed all of them being that they are resits they are capped at 40%  but with my dissertation they gave me 42%! I could not believe it, after ll the changes they told me to make (which I made for the resit) they still gave me 42% which left me so scared and stressed because it had to go to moderation for the final marks. So I prayed and left it in Gods hands.

Thankfully they did not put my marks down ( if they did I would have failed again and had to redo a whole year!!) and I graduated with a third Honours!!!!

 

I am still processing it how I done it and got through it. Being a mother it was really difficult finding time to study and do the assignments but I was able to organise myself and with the help of my hubby we got there. Its been  crazy and manic but I am glad I did it and on the way I made some lovely friends who together helped each other through it all.

Moral of the story, if you work hard enough for something,you will almost certainly get there.

Love Me X

NOT “CELEBRATING” HALLOWEN ANYMORE!

So Halloween is around the corner and everyone is talking about what they are going to wear and go as, now since I could remember I have always dressed up with my family and friends and went out trick or treating and since I have had kids they dress up in their costumes and we  take them out to trick or treat which they find fun. Now everyone feel a certain way about Halloween, some believe its against their beliefs or religion to celebrate it and other don’t care and feel its just good fun. For me I have been brought up in a Christian household and have always believed in Jesus or God but my mum was never the parent that told us not to enjoy Halloween and so we always done it every year.

Recently I had talked to the kids about not celebrating it to see what their opinions were about it and of course as children are they asked why? lol so Steve started explaining what Halloween stands for and how its against the Christian faith to celebrate it to my amazement the kids said they do not want to celebrate it no more!!!, I was like what? I was so gobsmacked and proud of them because I thought we were going to have a fight on our hand convincing and explaining why Christians should not celebrate it.

We are Christians and yes we celebrated Halloween but I don’t think that makes us bad people for doing that. I know a lot of Christian who would go crazy asking why we do it and why we would let our kids celebrate the day of the dead ( which being said in that context sound quite scary!) but at the end of the day if I  dressed up as Beyoncé or Michael Jackson, would you still say am celebrating the dead or just having fun? so is the question about the outfits that are worn or the actual day?

What are your thought guys? let me know in the comment below

P.S moral of the story is we have to try and listen to what our children think about different topics even though they are kids, they still have opinions and they should count.

Love Me X

HE CANT’T BREATH!!!!

So I have MIA for a minute but I have been quite busy and being mummy. So Jerome has been having a rough few weeks, about 2 weeks ago i was called by the school that he was not feeling well and he could not breath!! now imagine hearing your baby could not breath!. ( prior to this about 3 weeks before he had a cold and was really stuffy to the point where he could not breath without waking himself up so I decided to sleep with him so I could keep an eye on him. I have never used albos and vicks in one night so much lol) So I rushed to pick him up and bless his little self his stomach and chest were literally moving up and down so much because he could not  breath and was struggling so I called the doctor to get an emergency appointment and to my surprise ( thinking about it now I was not surprised) they told me the next appointment they could give me was in 2 hours time!!! I was so pissed!!! I told them the boy cant breath and you want me to wait two hours??? i was so angry. At this point I called Steve to let him know whats going on and he left work to come with us to hospital.

So instead of waiting for my son to get worse I took him to A&E luckily it was not busy when we went in so they saw him quickly. They checked him and they said he might have asthma! or a viral infection, so they put him on a pump and oxygen to help him breath which started to help him. We were there for about 3 hours so Steve left to go pick up Faith form school. when we got discharged he was a lot better but you could still hear his breathing was raspy so they gave us a pump to use at home and was told to make an appointment to see our usual doctor for him to be diagnosed! which I felt was just one of the stupidest ideas, we were in a hospital!! why could they not diagnose him there??? anyway we went doctors and they said the same thing as the hospital that they thought it was asthma or viral infection (well duh tell me something new).

The doctor gave him antibiotic tablets to take for 3 days and a breath tester to see how strong his breathing is and we have been using that for the last few weeks and he seems to be back to normal ( thank God!). Motherhood can be so hard and scary but his on the mend. 🙂

Love Me X

 

MAKING TIME

So a week ago it was my closest friend’s birthday, me and hubby and a few of her friends went out for a meal. I had not gone out for a meal in a while and I took the time to glam up! (yasssss hunny)

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It was one of the best nights out I have had in a while and it wasn’t because we went clubbing or anything, its just we were able to chill and enjoy each others company and crack jokes lol. After dinner we all went back to my friends house and just chilled and had some music on and just had a fun filled evening. I honestly prefer this kind of night in or out now days instead of going clubbing, so maybe this make me old or that I have grown up but I really enjoyed myself.

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We also went without the children which does not happen often!. I actually do not remember the last time me and hubby went out without our the children. I am one of them parents who feel guilty if I go out without my children, I don’t know why but I feel like they should always come out with us as we had them and they are our responsibility  ( I know guys my thinking is crazy but let me know what you think and if your like me or not lol). But we had fun and we need to have more time for us as we have just got into a routine where we don’t have time for us because having kids can be draining and your so busy getting them to their activities that you forget about yourself and your partner.20160910_001709

So the moral of the story is, make time for you and your partner or just for you because we all need a  break soon or later.

Love Me X

BACK TO SCHOOL!

I can’t believe summer holidays are finished! it feels like they just broke off for summer a few weeks ago. I think its because we went away this year so we were not home for 6 weeks where the last few years we have been home for the 6 weeks. So today the kids are back to school and when my 2 got dressed i looked at them like woah when did you get this tall and grown?!. When they put on their uniforms its like they transformed into these grown up, tall children! I was looking at them in amazement and I felt quite emotionally as my oldest (Faith) is now in her last year of primary school and my youngest (Jerome) now is in key stage 2 (year 3).

 

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Guys who else feels like  the primary school stage goes way too fast??

I know quiet a lot of parents are happy that their kids are returning to school and as I was about to drop mine at the school gates this guy said to me your getting your freedom back but I was like no am going to miss my babies :-(. But am sure they will have a fun filled first day back.

Moral of the story,  we can not control our children’s growth we can only cherish our time with them before they fly away from the nest!