“THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS SUPERMOM. WE JUST DO THE BEST WE CAN”. What I have learnt since becoming a mother of 4.

So I am a mother of 4! wow! that’s something am still getting my head around, there are days when it hits me and I just look at my children and just feel amazed and blessed that I was able to have four beautiful, healthy babies.

Its been three months since I had the twins and during that time I have come to learn a few things about having four children.

NOISE

Being in my house now days with my whole broad can be quite noisy. My first born is not too bad as she’s at the age where she is becoming independent (she’s 11) and she’s able to do quite a lot of things herself,  My second born is forever calling mummy (his 8) and now days he keeps saying he wished he would go back in my belly so his a baby and I can carry him lol. I love the age they are at as they are able to entertain themselves and they don’t need much adult supervision. Now there are times when the twins are crying and Faith and Jerome are feeling like being noisy and everyone is talking, the voices raise,it really sounds like a big group of people in a room yet in reality its 4 small people.

Some how I have learnt and adapted to having a noisy house and I have learnt to tune them out. Someone might ask how do you cope with that much commotion around you and its quite simple,as long as they are not fighting, its ok. For a little bit.

HELP

Having children who are aged 11 and 8 is such a blessing when you have 2 twin babies. I kept thinking how am I going to be able to do things with two small babies? what if they both start crying? how do I feed two babies at the same time? so much was going through my head but again I adapted and I am able to do all these things and more by myself if I have to. The good thing is when the kids are home I am able to tell them to watch the babies for me, carry them when they cry or even feed them so I can get on with other things. This is when I know God knew what he was doing when he blessed us with the twins.

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ITS NOT HARD 

When I found out we were having twins I think I panicked inside, no one knew I was able to keep it to myself. All I kept thinking is how am I going to be able to do school runs, cook dinner, clean my house, get out of the house, get downstairs as we live in a 2 storey flat with no lift, get the pram downstairs ( this takes a group effort)……… I really  was worried and didn’t think I would be able to cope with everything but somehow everything slot into place.

I have been back to school runs for about two months now and we have a good routine in place and no one is late for school or work, I am able to carry the twins in their car seats to the car though it can be tricky at times as the corridors are a bit narrow. The pram situation is still the same as some one still needs to stay with the babies as I take the pram down so I only do that when the kids or my partner are home.

I am a pro at setting up the pram too which looked so huge when we first got it but now it looks kinda small lol.

PEOPLE WILL STARE

This is one thing that getting used to slowly. When we are out we get a lot of looks or the twins and their pram get a lot of looks, sometimes people actually stop us to have a look and a chat which is nice when your not in a rush, others just stare which actually gets on my nerves, others want to touch them and have a cuddle which I find uncomfortable and I don’t like it ( hence why I leave the hood on), others give you a little smile.

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I know its a miracle and an amazing thing to have twins and I get why people are stunned by them and we count our blessings that they are healthy and striving but one thing that I feel I need to be smart mouthed about is when people come up to us and say things like double trouble, unlucky you! ( the unlucky comment wasn’t to me but a friend), why would some one feel the right to tell a mother that? people sometimes speak without thinking how it will sound or make the other person feel.

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With all the above I would not change anything about my family situation, we are put in situations knowing we can handle them and we do. We just have to get over the inital shock and get on with it and before you know it you begin to wonder what the worry and fuss was about.

 

Love Me x

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“SOMETIMES MIRACLES COME IN PAIRS”

Recently I have began to become confident with going out with the twins and not panic. When i first had them I was so scared and nervous about how I would cope being by myself with them and what I would do if they needed feeding and am alone. Since going back to doing school runs I have created a routine which work for me when am by myself without any help.

Since their last feed before I get up to get ready for the school runs is at around 4ish I take with me a feed for them which I give them around 9 once I drop my son off, once I am done I try and get home ASAP! as they tend to want to be held (especially the boy) after their feed.

I have also mastered putting together the pram which also gave me anxiety in the beginning because at the time it looked so massive and I was so overwhelmed with it but as times gone by and I have put them in and set it up it does not look that big anymore. Today someone said to me I should put a sign on the pram saying long vehicle coming through hahaha which I found kinda funny.

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Now if you look at my pram its not the usual or common one up and one down. I did not want the one up and one down because to me it was not that spacious for the babies, I also though the baby at the bottom would have felt the cold and they were too close to the ground for my liking. I also did not like that the babies could not see each other to interact so luckily we found this pram called ABC ZOOM. I really love this pram although putting the bassinets on was a bit tricky nut we mastered it in the end. The only complaint I have about this pram is the car seats fitting on, it is only compatible with about three different types of car seats which don’t come cheap and then you have to buy the adapters to connect the car seats and the pram so that just too much for me and also my friend had bought me cars seats as presents so now we leave the car seats in the car and transfer the twins into the bassinets when we are out.

Overall I feel I have mastered going out with me and am confident enough to do it by myself at this stage though I don’t know when they start moving around and walking how that will be lol but am sure we will master that stage too.

Love Me x

“IT ALWAYS SEEMS IMPOSSIBLE UNTIL ITS DONE” Nelson Mandela

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So lately I have been feeling some type of way, actually tell a lie lol this feeling has been with me for a hot minute. I have been vlogging my lifestyle coming to 3 years now and i feel I am in limbo sometimes. In the beginning I used to upload every week then I went up to twice a week and now since I had the twins I have not followed a set schedule because with new borns you can’t plan too much and when you do things don’t go to plan so I tend to upload whenever I get time to edit and do some work. Recently the channel has hit 102 subscribers which am grateful for but I feel like my channel is just stuck in one place and not going anywhere which demotivates me. We all have targets we want to achieve in life and I wanted my channel to be a bit more further along than where it is now.

Being that am a stay at home mum I thought this would have been a good way to make a little income ( which is not going as planned lol) as well as preserve some memories of our family life.

I feel like am doing something wrong or am not providing the right content which make me feel like vlogging is not for me. I watch a few lifestyle vloggers whose vlogs are on the same wave length as mine and their channels are doing brilliant and mine is just mehn. Some of them started the same time as me and some after me so its not like they have been doing it for 10 years and me 3.

I even sometimes think maybe its the camera am using which is a bit ridiculous or the editing software, though with the software( I use Adobe premiere elements) I find that most people use the Apple laptop editing one which seems way better than Adobe.

So please go watch a few of my vlogs and leave me some feedback below as to how I can improve and make the channel better and successful because at this point am at a lost end. I enjoy doing vlogs and I would like to continue doing them to share how my small world lives and goes through life’s ups and downs.

I look forwards to receiving your feedback.

Love Me X

Going Through Changes

Hey guys, so it’s been awhile since i have done a blog post and the last few months have been time i have taken to work out some life changes. I have not really posted on my social media platforms either which is quite different for me as am always posting something lol.

But i am hoping to get back to blogging ASAP though i might focus more on my lifestyle but we shall see. Onto a better note the kids have broken off for summer holidays (yes!!!) So happy as i don’t have to do school runs and be up at the break of dawn! Though i need to find places and ways to entertain these kids.

Oh my fifi (faith) has finished primary school this year and will be going to secondary school in September 😭😭😢. I just can’t get over her going to secondary school she’s still my litttle baby girl but i thank god for bringing her this far and now its a new chapter for her which am sure she will enjoy.

So thats some of the stuff that’s been going on in my household and i hope you all are having a brilliant summertime/break.

Love Me X

VLOGMAS DAY 16 AND LITTLE CHAT

Hey guys hope you are all well and getting ready for the festive period. I know i have been MIA for minute but vlogmas got me real busy lol. I do not want to over load you with vlogmas posts on here so that’s why i only update about the uploads every now and then. If you enjoy them then please check out the channel and you can find them there, but hope you all have a VERY BLESSED MERRY CHRISTMAS if i don’t upload on here again till the new year and hope  you have a lovely time with your family and friends, EAT LOTS, LAUGH PLENTY and don’t forget the reason for this festive period.

Love Me X

VLOGMAS DAY 7!

Hey guys hope you are all good, I cant believe am still doing Vlogmas! its a bit difficult as the editing can take a while and then you have to wait for it to load….. but all in all am still enjoying it and hope you are enjoying the vlogs am making.

P.s don’t forget to subscribe if you are enjoying the videos.

Love Me X